In Honour Preferring One Another


Aren't these flowers pretty? One of the little boys in our church brought them to me. They came from his mommy's garden. I'm thankful for the opportunity to work with the children of our church, and I'm glad this little boy's mommy is teaching him how to honor others.

There was a time not so very long ago when families were much more in tune with the needs of those around them. Unfortunately, we've seen this sensitivity slip away for the most part. This is particularly evident with young people in our society. Can we blame their selfishness on the media, technology, the church, or even the public school system? I don't think so. The heart of the matter lies in the home.

Where do children learn that their needs are not paramount? Where do they learn to place the desires of others before their own? Humility begins in the heart and in the home.

I have four young children. I would like to say that they all get along harmoniously and never squabble or scream at one another or are never unkind, but I wouldn't be telling the truth. Because of the fall of man, they were all born with a sin nature. In their flesh they desire to please themselves above all others. This selfishness is sin. It is the job of my husband and me, using the Bible as our guide, to instill in our children a genuine love for the needs of others and a desire to serve. I cannot remove pride from my children's hearts, nor can I force them to love others above themselves. These are things that will come as they develop their own personal relationships with the Lord Jesus Christ. I can, however, demonstrate a giving heart and teach them what the Bible says about honoring others.

Why should we be kind to others? Because of the great love and kindness God has shown to us.

"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32 KJV

How do we show honor? We put the needs and wants of others before our own needs and wants.

"Be ye kindly affectioned to one another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another..." Romans 12:10 KJV

"And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise." Luke 6:31 KJV

Jesus Christ is our greatest example of love, compassion, and humility. His sacrifice on the cross of Calvary should be our motivation for showing love and honor to others.

"Let nothing be done through stife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross." Philippians 2:3-8 KJV

I cannot expect my children to show love and honor to others if I am not demonstrating these things myself. It is my prayer that the Lord would convict me regarding my own selfishness and give me a heart of compassion for others.

"And of some have compassion, making a difference..." Jude 22 KJV

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Thursday, June 14, 2007
In Honour Preferring One Another

Aren't these flowers pretty? One of the little boys in our church brought them to me. They came from his mommy's garden. I'm thankful for the opportunity to work with the children of our church, and I'm glad this little boy's mommy is teaching him how to honor others.

There was a time not so very long ago when families were much more in tune with the needs of those around them. Unfortunately, we've seen this sensitivity slip away for the most part. This is particularly evident with young people in our society. Can we blame their selfishness on the media, technology, the church, or even the public school system? I don't think so. The heart of the matter lies in the home.

Where do children learn that their needs are not paramount? Where do they learn to place the desires of others before their own? Humility begins in the heart and in the home.

I have four young children. I would like to say that they all get along harmoniously and never squabble or scream at one another or are never unkind, but I wouldn't be telling the truth. Because of the fall of man, they were all born with a sin nature. In their flesh they desire to please themselves above all others. This selfishness is sin. It is the job of my husband and me, using the Bible as our guide, to instill in our children a genuine love for the needs of others and a desire to serve. I cannot remove pride from my children's hearts, nor can I force them to love others above themselves. These are things that will come as they develop their own personal relationships with the Lord Jesus Christ. I can, however, demonstrate a giving heart and teach them what the Bible says about honoring others.

Why should we be kind to others? Because of the great love and kindness God has shown to us.

"And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake hath forgiven you." Ephesians 4:32 KJV

How do we show honor? We put the needs and wants of others before our own needs and wants.

"Be ye kindly affectioned to one another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another..." Romans 12:10 KJV

"And as ye would that men should do to you, do ye also to them likewise." Luke 6:31 KJV

Jesus Christ is our greatest example of love, compassion, and humility. His sacrifice on the cross of Calvary should be our motivation for showing love and honor to others.

"Let nothing be done through stife or vainglory; but in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves. Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others. Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus: Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God: But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men: And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross." Philippians 2:3-8 KJV

I cannot expect my children to show love and honor to others if I am not demonstrating these things myself. It is my prayer that the Lord would convict me regarding my own selfishness and give me a heart of compassion for others.

"And of some have compassion, making a difference..." Jude 22 KJV

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13 Comments:
Blogger Amy ~ said...
Great Study! Thanks for sharing....very convicting and so much to think and pray about~:-|

Blogger Mrs. E said...
I also believe that the moulding and shaping of our young begins at home. It saddens me to see the path that some of our young are taking and I wonder if they are not led in the right direction, what will become of them? How will they ever learn if they have no one to teach them and who are also set in their ways and refuse to listen to the word? I only say this because I've seen it.

I do worry about the world that will be left behind for them, what they will make of it, and if they themselves will ever be saved.

Our young definitely need our prayers and guidance.

Thank you for sharing this wonderful study and may I say what a blessing you are to your children and the children of your church.

Anonymous Michelle said...
Thanks for sharing this with us. David and I were just talking about this last night. Your thoughts are very convicting to me as a mother. I am gonna post a link to this post on my blog.
Have a blessed Thursday!
Michelle

Blogger Kelley said...
What beautiful flowers!
Thanks for such a needful post!
I am trying to teach my children the very things that you posted about and to have a servant's heart!

Have a blessed day! *Ü*

Blogger Michelle said...
I forgot to sign into blogger
Sorry
Michelle

Blogger Trixie said...
What an excellent subject to bring up:) The home is truely where most of a child's learning about how to treat others is done!

I started typing a comment here and realized it would go on and on, so I did a post on my blog.

Take Care,

Trixie

Blogger Julie Fink said...
Thank you for sharing this encouraging post!

Blogger Mrs.B. said...
What beautiful flowers! And your post is spot on! (o:

Blogger Kelli said...
What pretty flowers and I enjoyed this encouraging post!
Kelli

Anonymous Amy Jane said...
"Learn in the home" is a good theory (as in, plan), but I find I need specifics.

I love this poem and how the author delineates what she learned by watching her mother.

I really don't the the mother was doing it for the benefit of her watching daughter, but it was just plain living and taught, along with leaving a mark.

That's the kind of teaching I hope my kids remember.

Blogger Mrs. C said...
Thank you all for your kind comments.

Mrs. E,
When looking at the world around us it is easy to get discouraged. I'm so thankful that the Lord holds my future in His hands. :)

Michelle,
I'm glad this post was a blessing to you.

Trixie,
Thank you for linking this post. You had some great thoughts, too.

Amy Jane,
Thank you for the link to the poem. The little things are often what stick in a child's mind. :)

Blogger Faith said...
I found your blog through my friend's blog. What beautiful flowers you show! And your thoughts on children, honor, etc. are great! I am a teacher (well, a stay at home mom right now) who works part time usually, and let me tell you: respect, honor, love and kindness MUST start in the home. It is hard for us Christians to have to instill this in our curriculum at school but...if we don't no one else will. These life values really do need to be taught at home and not enough parents are doing it (believers sometimes fall here too!) thanks so much. I think I will add your site to my own blog!

Blogger Happymama said...
You hit the nail on the head there, sister!
A hearty AMEN to this post. And a humble prayer also.

~Kristi

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